愛華網(wǎng)親愛的女兒：
As we drove off from Columbia, I wanted to write a letter to youto tell you all that is on my mind.
當(dāng)我們開車駛出哥倫比亞大學(xué)的時(shí)候，我想寫一封信給你，告訴你盤旋在我腦中的想法。
李開復(fù)一家
First, I want to tell you how proud we are. Getting intoColumbia is a real testament of what a great well-rounded studentyou are. Your academic, artistic, and social skills have trulyblossomed in the last few years. Whether it is getting the highestgrade in Calculus, completing your elegant fashion design,successfully selling your painted running shoes, or becoming one ofthe top orators in Model United Nations, you have become a talentedand accomplished young woman. You should be as proud of yourself aswe are.
首先，我想告訴你我們?yōu)槟愀械教貏e驕傲。進(jìn)入哥倫比亞大學(xué)證明你是一個(gè)全面發(fā)展的優(yōu)秀學(xué)生，你的學(xué)業(yè)、藝術(shù)和社交技能最近都有卓越的表現(xiàn)，無論是你在微積分上得了最高分，完成自己典雅的時(shí)尚的設(shè)計(jì)，成功賣出繪制的跑鞋，還是在“模擬聯(lián)合國”演說中成為表現(xiàn)最突出的人之一，你毫無疑問已經(jīng)是一個(gè)多才多藝的女孩。你的父母為你感到驕傲，你也應(yīng)該像我們一樣為自己感到自豪。
I will always remember the first moment I held you in my arms.I felt a tingling sensation that directly touched my heart. It wasan intoxicating feeling I will always have. It must be that"father-daughter connection" which will bind us for life. I willalways remember singing you lullaby while I rocked you to sleep.When I put you down, it was always with both relief (she finallyfell asleep!) and regret (wishing I could hold you longer). And Iwill always remember taking you to the playground, and watching youhaving so much fun. You were so cute and adorable, and that is whyeverybody loved you so.
我會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)記得第一次將你抱在臂彎的那一刻，一種新鮮激動(dòng)的感覺瞬間觸動(dòng)了我的心，那是一種永遠(yuǎn)讓我陶醉的感覺，就是那種將我們的一生都聯(lián)結(jié)在一起的“父女情結(jié)”。我也常常想起我唱著催眠曲輕搖你入睡，當(dāng)我把你放下的時(shí)候，常常覺得既解脫又惋惜，一方面我想，她終于睡著了！另一方面，我又多么希望自己可以多抱你一會(huì)兒。我還記得帶你到運(yùn)動(dòng)場(chǎng)，看著你玩得那么開心，你是那樣可愛，所有人都非常愛你。
You have been a great kid ever since you were born, alwaysquiet, empathetic, attentive, and well-mannered. You were threewhen we built our house. I remember you quietly followed us everyweekend for more than ten hours a day to get building supplies. Youput up with that boring period without a fuss, happily atehamburgers every meal in the car, sang with Barney until you fellasleep. When you went to Sunday Chinese school, you studied hardeven though it was no fun for you. I cannot believe how lucky weare as parents to have a daughter like you.
你不但長得可愛，而且是個(gè)特別乖巧的孩子。你從不吵鬧、為人著想，既聽話又有禮貌。當(dāng)你三歲我們建房子的時(shí)候，每個(gè)周末十多個(gè)小時(shí)你都靜靜地跟著我們?nèi)ミ\(yùn)建筑材料，三餐在車上吃著漢堡，唱著兒歌，唱累了就睡覺，一點(diǎn)都不嬌氣不抱怨。你去上周日的中文學(xué)習(xí)班時(shí)，盡管一點(diǎn)也不覺得有趣，卻依然很努力。我們做父母的能有像你這樣的女兒真的感到非常幸運(yùn)。
You have been an excellent elder sister. Even though you twohad your share of fights, the last few years you have become bestfriends. Your sister loves you so much, and she loves to make youlaugh. She looks up to you, and sees you as her role model. As yousaw when we departed, she misses you so much. And I know that youmiss her just as much. There is nothing like family, and other thanyour parents, your sister is the one person who you can trust andconfide in. She will be the one to take care of you, and the oneyou must take care of. There is nothing we wish more than that yoursisterhood will continue to bond as you grow older, and that youwill take care of each other throughout your lives. For the nextfour years, do have a short video chat with her every few days, anddo email her when you have a chance.
你也是個(gè)很好的姐姐。雖然你們姐妹以前也會(huì)打架，但是長大后，你們真的成為了好朋友。妹妹很愛你，很喜歡逗你笑，她把你當(dāng)成她的榜樣看待。我們開車離開哥大后，她非常想你，我知道你也很想她。世界上最寶貴的就是家人。和父母一樣，妹妹就是你最可以信任的人。隨著年齡的增長，你們姐妹之間的情誼不變，你們互相照應(yīng)，彼此關(guān)心，這就是我最希望見到的事情了。在你的大學(xué)四年，有空時(shí)你一定要常常跟妹妹視頻聊聊天，寫寫電子郵件。
College will be the most important years in your life. It isin college that you will truly discover what learning is about. Youoften question "what good is this course". I encourage you to beinquisitive, but I also want to tell you: "Education is what youhave left after all that is taught is forgotten." What I mean bythat is the materials taught isn't as important as you gaining theability to learn a new subject, and the ability to analyze a newproblem. That is really what learning in college is about – thiswill be the period where you go from teacher-taught tomaster-inspired, after which you must become self-learner. So dotake each subject seriously, and even if what you learn isn'tcritical for your life, the skills of learning will be somethingyou cherish forever.
大學(xué)將是你人生最重要的時(shí)光，在大學(xué)里你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)學(xué)習(xí)的真諦。你以前經(jīng)常會(huì)問到“這個(gè)課程有什么用”，這是個(gè)好問題，但是我希望你理解：“教育的真諦就是當(dāng)你忘記一切所學(xué)到的東西之后所剩下的東西?！蔽业囊馑际?，最重要的不是你學(xué)到的具體的知識(shí)，而是你學(xué)習(xí)新事物和解決新問題的能力。這才是大學(xué)學(xué)習(xí)的真正意義——這將是你從被動(dòng)學(xué)習(xí)轉(zhuǎn)向自主學(xué)習(xí)的階段，之后你會(huì)變成一個(gè)很好的自學(xué)者。所以，即便你所學(xué)的不是生活里所急需的，也要認(rèn)真看待大學(xué)里的每一門功課，就算學(xué)習(xí)的技能你會(huì)忘記，學(xué)習(xí)的能力是你將受用終身的。
Do not fall into the trap of dogma. There is no single simpleanswer to any question. Remember during your high school debateclass, I always asked you to take on the side that you don'tbelieve in? I did that for a reason -- things rarely "black andwhite", and there are always many ways to look at a problem. Youwill become a better problem solver if you recognized that. This iscalled "critical thinking", and it is the most important thinkingskill you need for your life. This also means you need to becometolerant and supportive of others. I will always remember when Iwent to my Ph.D. advisor and proposed a new thesis topic. He said"I don't agree with you, but I'll support you." After the years, Ihave learned this isn't just flexibility, it is encouragement ofcritical thinking, and an empowering style of leadership, and ithas become a part of me. I hope it will become a part of youtoo.
不要被教條所束縛，任何問題都沒有一個(gè)唯一的簡單的答案。還記得當(dāng)我?guī)椭愀咧械霓q論課程時(shí)，我總是讓你站在你不認(rèn)可的那一方來辯論嗎？我這么做的理由就是希望你能夠理解：看待一個(gè)問題不應(yīng)該非黑即白，而是有很多方法和角度。當(dāng)你意識(shí)到這點(diǎn)的時(shí)候，你就會(huì)成為一個(gè)很好的解決問題者。這就是“批判的思維”——你的一生都會(huì)需要的最重要的思考方式，這也意味著你還需要包容和支持不同于你的其他觀點(diǎn)。我永遠(yuǎn)記得我去找我的博士導(dǎo)師提出了一個(gè)新論題，他告訴我：“我不同意你，但我支持你?！倍嗄旰螅艺J(rèn)識(shí)到這不僅僅是包容，而是一種批判式思考，更是令人折服的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)風(fēng)格，現(xiàn)在這也變成了我的一部分。我希望這也能成為你的一部分。
Follow your passion in college. Take courses you think youwill enjoy. Don't be trapped in what others think or say. SteveJobs says when you are in college, your passion will create manydots, and later in your life you will connect them. In his greatspeech given at Stanford commencement, he gave the great examplewhere he took calligraphy, and a decade later, it became the basisof the beautiful Macintosh fonts, which later ignited desktoppublishing, and brought wonderful tools like Microsoft Word to ourlives. His expedition into calligraphy was a dot, and the Macintoshbecame the connecting line. So don't worry too much about what jobyou will have, and don't be too utilitarian, and if you likeJapanese or Korean, go for it, even if your dad thinks "it's notuseful" : ) Enjoy picking your dots, and be assured one day youwill find your calling, and connect a beautiful curve through thedots.
在大學(xué)里你要追隨自己的激情和興趣，選你感興趣的課程，不要困擾于別人怎么說或怎么想。史蒂夫•喬布斯曾經(jīng)說過，在大學(xué)里你的熱情會(huì)創(chuàng)造出很多點(diǎn)，在你隨后的生命中你會(huì)把這些點(diǎn)串聯(lián)起來。在他著名的斯坦福畢業(yè)典禮演講中，他舉了一個(gè)很好的例子：他在大學(xué)里修了看似毫無用處的書法，而十年后，這成了蘋果Macintosh里漂亮字庫的基礎(chǔ)，而因?yàn)镸acintosh有這么好的字庫，才帶來了桌面出版和今天的辦公軟件（例如微軟Office）。他對(duì)書法的探索就是一個(gè)點(diǎn)，而蘋果Macintosh把多個(gè)點(diǎn)聯(lián)結(jié)成了一條線。所以不要太擔(dān)心將來你要做什么樣的工作，也不要太急功近利。假如你喜歡日語或韓語，就去學(xué)吧，即使你爸爸曾認(rèn)為那沒什么用：）盡興地選擇你的點(diǎn)吧，要有信念有一天機(jī)緣來臨時(shí)，你會(huì)找到自己的人生使命，畫出一條美麗的曲線。
Doyour best in classes, but don't let pressure get to you. Yourmother and I have no expectations for your grades. If you graduateand learn something in your four years, we would feel happy. YourColumbia degree will take you far, even if you don't graduate withhonors. So please don't give yourself pressure. During your lastfew months in high school, you were so happy because there waslittle pressure and college applications are finished. But in thepast few weeks, we saw you are beginning to worry (did you know youbite your nails when you are nervous?). Please don't be worried.The only thing that matters is that you learned. The only metricyou should use is that you tried. Grades are just silly lettersthat give the vain people something to brag, and the lazy peoplesomething to fear. You are too good to be either.
在功課上要盡力，但不要給自己太多壓力。你媽媽和我在成績上對(duì)你沒什么要求，只要你能順利畢業(yè)并在這四年里學(xué)到了些東西，我們就會(huì)很高興了。即便你畢業(yè)時(shí)沒有獲得優(yōu)異的成績，你的哥倫比亞學(xué)位也將帶你走得很遠(yuǎn)。所以別給自己壓力。在你高中生活的最后幾個(gè)月，因?yàn)閴毫Ρ容^小，大學(xué)申請(qǐng)也結(jié)束了，你過得很開心，但是在最近的幾個(gè)星期，你好像開始緊張起來。（你注意到你緊張時(shí)會(huì)咬指甲嗎？）千萬別擔(dān)心，最重要的是你在學(xué)習(xí)，你需要的唯一衡量是你的努力程度。成績只不過是虛榮的人用以吹噓和慵懶的人所恐懼的無聊數(shù)字而已，而你既不虛榮也不慵懶。
Most importantly, make friends and be happy. College friendsare often the best in life, because during college you are closerto them physically than to your family. Also, going throughindependence and adulthood is a natural bonding experience. Pick afew friends and become really close to them – pick the ones who aregenuine and sincere to you. Don't worry about their hobbies,grades, looks, or even personalities. You have developed some realfriendships in high school in your last two years, so trust yourinstinct, and make new friends. You are a genuine and sincereperson – anyone would enjoy being your friend, so be confident,outgoing, and pro-active. If you think you like someone, tell her.You have very little to lose. Give people the benefit of the doubt;don't stereotype and be forgiving. People are not perfect, so aslong as they are genuine and sincere, trust them and be good tothem. They will give back. This is my secret of success – that I amgenuine with people and trust them (unless they do something tolose my trust). Some people tell me that occasionally I would betaken advantage of. They are right, but I can tell you that thatloss is nothing compared to what I gained. In my last 18 yearsleading people, I have realized that only one thing matters – togain the trust and respect of others, and to do so, you need totrust and respect others first. Whether it is for management, work,or friendship, this is something you should ponder.
最重要的是在大學(xué)里你要交一些朋友，快樂生活。大學(xué)的朋友往往是生命中最好的朋友，因?yàn)樵诖髮W(xué)里你和朋友能夠近距離交往。另外，在一塊兒成長，一起獨(dú)立，很自然地你們就會(huì)緊緊地系在一起，成為密友。你應(yīng)該挑選一些真誠誠懇的朋友，跟他們親近，別在乎他們的愛好、成績、外表甚至性格。你在高中的最后兩年已經(jīng)交到了一些真正的朋友，所以盡可以相信自己的直覺，再交一些新朋友吧。你是一個(gè)真誠的人，任何人都會(huì)喜歡跟你做朋友的，所以要自信、外向、主動(dòng)一點(diǎn)，如果你喜歡某人，就告訴她，就算她拒絕了，你也沒有損失什么。以最大的善意去對(duì)人，不要有成見，要寬容。人無完人，只要他們很真誠，就信任他們，對(duì)他們友善。他們將給你相同的回報(bào)，這是我成功的秘密——我以誠待人，信任他人（除非他們做了失信于我的事）。有人告訴這樣有時(shí)我會(huì)被占便宜，他們是對(duì)的，但是我可以告訴你：以誠待人讓我得到的遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)超過我失去的。在我做管理的18年里，我學(xué)到一件很重要的事——要想得到他人的信任和尊重，只有先去信任和尊重他人。無論是管理、工作、交友，這點(diǎn)都值得你參考。
Do keep your high school friends, and stay connected to them,but do not use them as substitutes for college friendship, and donot spend too much time with them, because that would eat into yourtime to make new friends.
要和你高中時(shí)代的朋友保持聯(lián)系，但是不要用他們來取代大學(xué)的友誼，也不要把全部的時(shí)間都花在老朋友身上，因?yàn)槟菢幽憔蜁?huì)失去交新朋友的機(jī)會(huì)了。
Start planning for your summers early – what would you like todo? Where would you like to live? What would you like to learn?What have you learned in college that might change your mind? Ithink your plan of studying fashion is good, and you should decidewhere you want to be, and get into the right courses. We of coursehope you come back to Beijing, but you should go where you think isbest for you.
你還要早點(diǎn)開始規(guī)劃你的暑假——你想做什么？你想呆在哪兒？你想學(xué)點(diǎn)什么？你在大學(xué)里學(xué)習(xí)是否會(huì)讓你有新的打算？我覺得你學(xué)習(xí)藝術(shù)設(shè)計(jì)的計(jì)劃很不錯(cuò)，你應(yīng)該想好你該去哪兒學(xué)習(xí)相應(yīng)的課程。我們當(dāng)然希望你回到北京，但是最終的決定是你的。
Whether it is summer-planning, or coursework planning, orpicking a major, or managing your time, you should take control ofyour life. In the past, I have helped you quite a bit, whether itis in college application, designing your extracurricularactivities, or picking the initial coursework. I will always bethere for you, but the time has come for you to be in the driver'sseat – this is your life, and you need to be in control. I willalways remember the exhilarating feeling in my life – that I got todecide to skip kindergarten, that I got to decide to change tocomputer science major, that I got to decide to leave academia forApple, that I got to decide to go to China, that I got to decide togo to Google, and most recently, that I got to decide to start myown business. Being able to decide means you get to live the lifethat you want to. Life is too short to live the life others do orothers want you. Being in control feels great. Try it, and you'lllove it!
不管是暑假計(jì)劃，功課規(guī)劃，抑或是選專業(yè)，管理時(shí)間，你都應(yīng)該負(fù)責(zé)你的人生。過去不管是申請(qǐng)學(xué)校、設(shè)計(jì)課外活動(dòng)或者選擇最初的課程，我都從旁幫助了你不少。以后，我仍然會(huì)一直站你身旁，但是現(xiàn)在是你自己掌舵的時(shí)候了。我常常記起我生命中那些令人振奮的時(shí)刻——在幼兒園決定跳級(jí)，決定轉(zhuǎn)到計(jì)算機(jī)科學(xué)專業(yè)，決定離開學(xué)術(shù)界選擇Apple，決定回中國，決定選擇Google，乃至最近選擇創(chuàng)辦我的新公司。有能力進(jìn)行選擇意味著你會(huì)過上自己想要的生活。生命太短暫了，你不能過別人想要你過的生活。掌控自己的生命是很棒的感覺，試試吧，你會(huì)愛上它的！
I told your mom I'm writing this letter, and asked what shewanted me to say. She thought and said: "just ask her to take careof herself." Simple but deeply caring – that is how your mother is,and that is why you love her so much. In this simple sentence isher hope that you will become independent in the way you take careof yourself – that you will remember to take your medicine, thatyou will get enough sleep, that you will have a balanced diet, thatyou will get some exercise, and that you will go see a doctorwhenever you don't feel good. An ancient Chinese proverb says thatthe most important thing to be nice to your parents is to take careof yourself. This is because your parents love you so much, andthat if you are well, they will have comfort. You will understandthis one day when you become a mother. But in the meantime, pleaselisten to your mother and take care of yourself.
我告訴你媽媽我在寫這封信，問她有什么想對(duì)你說的，她想了想，說“讓她好好照顧自己”，很簡單卻飽含著真切的關(guān)心——這一向是你深愛的媽媽的特點(diǎn)。這短短的一句話，是她想提醒你很多事情，比如要記得自己按時(shí)吃藥，好好睡覺，保持健康的飲食，適量運(yùn)動(dòng)，不舒服的時(shí)候要去看醫(yī)生等等。中國有句古語，說“身體發(fā)膚，受之父母，不敢毀傷，孝之始也”。這句話的意思用比較新的方法詮釋就是說：父母最愛的就是你，所以照顧好自己就是孝順最好的方法。當(dāng)你成為母親的那天，你就會(huì)理解這些。在那天之前，聽媽媽的，你一定要好好照顧自己。
College is the four years where you have:
•the greatest amount of free time
大學(xué)是你自由時(shí)間最多的四年。
•the first chance to be independent
大學(xué)是你第一次學(xué)會(huì)獨(dú)立的四年。
•the most flexibility to change
大學(xué)是可塑性最強(qiáng)的四年。
•the lowest risk for making mistakes
大學(xué)是犯錯(cuò)代價(jià)最低的四年。
So please treasure your college years – make the best of yourfree time, become an independent thinker in control of yourdestiny, evolve yourself into a bi-cultural talent, be bold toexperiment, learn and grow through your successes andchallenges.
所以，珍惜你的大學(xué)時(shí)光吧，好好利用你的空閑時(shí)間，成為掌握自己命運(yùn)的獨(dú)立思考者，發(fā)展自己的多元化才能，大膽地去嘗試，通過不斷的成功和挑戰(zhàn)來學(xué)習(xí)和成長，成為融匯中西的人才。
When I faced the greatest challenge and opportunity in my lifein 2005, you gave me a big hug and said "bonne chance", which means"good luck" and "good courage". Now I do the same for you. Bonnechance, my angel and princess. May Columbia become the happiestfour years in your life, and may you blossom into just what youdream to be.
當(dāng)我在2005年面對(duì)人生最大的挑戰(zhàn)時(shí)，你給了我大大的擁抱，還跟我說了一句法語“bonnechance”。這句話代表“祝你勇敢，祝你好運(yùn)！”現(xiàn)在，我也想跟你說同樣的話，bonnechance，我的天使和公主，希望哥倫比亞成為你一生中最快樂的四年，希望你成為你夢(mèng)想成為的人！
Love,
愛你的，
Dad (& Mom)
爸爸（和媽媽）
