愛華網(wǎng)”Did you ever stop to think, and forget to start again?”
“Well,” said Pooh, “what I like best — ” and then he had to stop and think. Because although eating honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn’t know what it was called.”
Winnie the Pooh is a kind bear. He cares greatly about his friends.
And he has always seemed like a pretty happy bear to me.
He’s also a favorite of mine so today I’d like to simply share 5 of my favorite happiness tips from that honey loving bear.
“你有沒有停下來(lái)思考卻又忘了重新思考的經(jīng)歷?”
“噢，”維尼說(shuō)，“什么是我的最愛呢——”然后他停下來(lái)開始思考。盡管吃蜂蜜是件非常棒的事兒，但是在你準(zhǔn)備開始吃之前的那個(gè)時(shí)刻感覺比吃的時(shí)候更美妙，但它不知道該怎么稱呼這個(gè)時(shí)刻。
小熊維尼是一個(gè)善良的熊。他非常關(guān)心他的朋友。
同時(shí)對(duì)我來(lái)說(shuō)，他看起來(lái)總是那么的快樂。
他也是我最喜歡的人，所以今天我簡(jiǎn)單分享一下親愛小熊的五點(diǎn)幸福小貼士。
1. Don’t get bogged down in details.
“You can’t help respecting anybody who can spell TUESDAY, even if he doesn’t spell it right; but spelling isn’t everything. There are days when spelling Tuesday simply doesn’t count.”
Getting bogged down in details, focusing on the small problems can have advantages. But it can also make you miss the big picture. What’s really important in your life.
Don’t make the classic mistakes of spending too much time nitpicking or making mountains out of molehills. Relax instead. Focus on the positive things you have and want in your life.
Keep your attention on that. Work towards that. The days may seem long but the years are often pretty short. So live them instead constantly inspecting, criticizing or overthinking them.
1.不要糾結(jié)于細(xì)節(jié)
你不得不佩服那些能夠拼寫TUESDAY這個(gè)單詞的人，即使他根本沒有拼對(duì)。但是拼寫并非一切，有時(shí)候它完全沒有價(jià)值。
糾結(jié)于細(xì)節(jié)，關(guān)注小問(wèn)題很有好處。但也有可能會(huì)使你錯(cuò)失更重要的東西，你生命中真正重要的東西。
不要對(duì)這些常見的拼寫錯(cuò)誤大驚小怪、小題大做以至于浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。放輕松。關(guān)注你當(dāng)下和希冀的生活中積極的東西。
在此方面集中注意力，并努力去做。日子看起來(lái)很長(zhǎng)，但年歲卻十分短暫。所以好好生活，而不是不斷地在審視、批評(píng)或者想太多中度過(guò)一生。
2. Be proactive. Take the lead.
“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
It’s easy to get locked into a reactive mindset. You just follow along with whatever is happening. You do what the people around you do. You react to whatever is going on.
And so you get lost in your circumstances. This way of thinking doesn’t feel too good. You tend to feel powerless and like you are just drifting along in life.
Another way of going about things to be proactive. To be the one who takes action first and to take the lead. It’s not always easy though. You have to get out of your comfort zone and it can feel scary.
So to not get lost in procrastination take it one small step at time. Just be proactive instead of reactive about one little thing in your life today. Start with that action and then build your proactiveness muscle step by small step.
2.積極主動(dòng)做榜樣
“你不能躲在林中的角落里等著別人來(lái)找你。有時(shí)你必須自己去找他們?！?/p>
人很容易陷入到被動(dòng)的心態(tài)中，隨波逐流、人云亦云。面對(duì)任何事都是這樣的反應(yīng)。
所以你對(duì)自身情況感到迷失。這種思維方式并不好。你會(huì)感到無(wú)助，好像你只是在隨波逐流的生活。
從積極的角度對(duì)待這件事。成為行動(dòng)的第一執(zhí)行者和帶頭人。這并不容易。你將不得不走出自己舒服的領(lǐng)域，這會(huì)讓你感到恐慌。
所以為了避免陷入拖延時(shí)間的困境，每次采取一小步。只有積極主動(dòng)而不是被動(dòng)對(duì)待今天生活中的一件小事。開始行動(dòng)起來(lái)，然后一步一小步的建立你的積極力量。
3. Keep conversations simple and positive.
“It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?””
What do people want in a conversations and relationships?
Long-winded negative babbling?
Or positive, focused talks where it is interesting to listen, communicate and exchange ideas?
Although the answer probably varies but I’d rather spend most of my time with doing the latter.
Three tips that help me to keep the conversation positive and focused are:
Live a positive life. If you focus on the positive in your daily life then it’s usually no problem to keep focusing on it and talking about it in conversations. More on that in the last tip in this article.
Be aware and alert. If you know that you have a problem with excessive ramblings then simply being aware of this can help you to stop yourself more and more often before you go off into babbling.
Use words that helps you to get through. No need to try to impress people with big and complicated words when it’s not needed. Focus on getting through to others and communicating by using simple words that anyone can understand.
3.保持簡(jiǎn)潔積極向上的對(duì)話
和不用冗長(zhǎng)又拗口的詞的人交談更有趣，但又不是十分簡(jiǎn)短的話，像“午餐吃什么?”
人們期待一個(gè)什么樣的對(duì)話和關(guān)系?
冗長(zhǎng)的消極的胡言亂語(yǔ)?
亦或是洋溢著聆聽、交流、交換意見的積極地、集中地交談?
盡管答案可能不同，但我寧愿花費(fèi)我的大部分時(shí)間在后者。
三個(gè)提示，幫助我保持談話的積極和集中：
保持陽(yáng)光的生活。如果你的日常生活就充滿向上，那么保持積極和談話內(nèi)容樂觀就不是問(wèn)題。更多精彩，盡在本文最后一個(gè)提示。
時(shí)刻保持警覺。如果你知道你有過(guò)分胡扯的問(wèn)題，然后簡(jiǎn)單的覺察到這一點(diǎn)能幫助你，經(jīng)常在你開始陷入胡言亂語(yǔ)之前，阻止自己再繼續(xù)下去。
使用可以幫助你表達(dá)清晰的話。沒有必要試圖通過(guò)不需要的大而復(fù)雜的詞給人留下印象。重點(diǎn)是能使他人理解，使用簡(jiǎn)單易懂的詞與人溝通。
4. Do nothing once in a while.
“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”
Although it feels good to work towards your dreams and doing the things you love I find that things tend to go better and I feel better if there is a balance.
If I take some time each week to do pretty much nothing. If I just spend time with myself on a walk in the woods or by the ocean for example.
By doing so I unload my mind. I relax fully and so life becomes less heavy and burdensome and I tend to have less stress and worries during the rest of my week.
4. 偶爾無(wú)為
“不要低估了無(wú)所事事的價(jià)值，就這么走走，傾聽那些你沒聽過(guò)的聲音，不去打擾。”
盡管朝著自己的夢(mèng)想努力感覺很美好，做自己喜歡的事情感覺也很美好，但我覺得如果能兩者之間找到平衡肯定會(huì)更好。
如果我每星期花些時(shí)間什么也不做。如果我只是花時(shí)間自己在森林里走走或是，例如去海邊走走。
這么做我一定能卸下思想中的包袱。我能充分的放松自己，生活的壓力和累贅越來(lái)越少。在一周余下的時(shí)間里我會(huì)減少壓力和憂慮。
5. Appreciate the little things.
“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.”
Daily happiness is to a large part about appreciating the small things.
If you just allow yourself to be happy when accomplishing a big goal or when you have some great luck then you are making life harder than it needs to be.
Instead, focus on appreciating things that you may take for granted.
Take 2 minutes and find things in your life you can appreciate right now. If you want some ideas, here are a few of the simple things that I like to appreciate:
My food.
The weather.
My health.
Friends and family.
This website and the opportunity to write about what I want.
You, the reader.
Myself and the fine things about me.
The funny thing is that if you just start appreciating something you can very quickly start jumping around with your attention and appreciate just about anything around you.
You may start with the food you are eating right now. Then move your attention to the phone and appreciate that you can contact anyone – and be contacted by anyone – you’d like.
You might then move your attention outside, through the window and see the wonderful sunshine, then kids having fun with a football and then the tree by the road turning into wonderful autumn colors. And so on.
It might not sound like much. But this simple 2 minute exercise can help you to uncover a lot of the happiness that is already in your daily life.
5. 欣賞微不足道的小事
“沒有人不喜歡氣球。”
最多的日常歡喜來(lái)自于對(duì)小事的欣賞。
如果你只允許自己在完成一個(gè)巨大目標(biāo)或走大運(yùn)的時(shí)候才欣喜，那么你的人生將過(guò)得不必要的艱難。
相反，重點(diǎn)是要欣賞你習(xí)以為常的東西。
花2分鐘找尋你生命中你可以馬上欣賞到的東西。如果你想要一些建議，這里有一些我欣賞的簡(jiǎn)單的東西：
美食
天氣
健康
家人和朋友
這個(gè)網(wǎng)站和表達(dá)我自己的機(jī)會(huì)
你，這么一個(gè)讀者
我自己和關(guān)于我美好的事情
有趣的是，如果你剛開始欣賞某物，你能很快開始跳脫你思維和欣賞你周圍的任何事物。
你也許正在吃飯，你會(huì)轉(zhuǎn)移你的注意力到手機(jī)上，欣賞你可以接觸到的每一個(gè)人——無(wú)論是誰(shuí)只要你愿意就能聯(lián)系上。
你可能會(huì)將注意力轉(zhuǎn)移到外面，透過(guò)窗戶看到美好的陽(yáng)光，孩子們開心的在踢球，然后道路旁的樹變成美好的金黃色，等等。
也許聽起來(lái)沒什么大不了，但簡(jiǎn)單的兩分鐘練習(xí)就能幫助你發(fā)現(xiàn)日常生活的幸福美妙。
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