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高情商的14個(gè)信號(hào)
What makes some people more successfulin work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, butthey don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- theway we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- canplay a critical role in determining our happiness and success.
是什么讓某些人在工作和生活中比他人更成功呢？智商和職業(yè)道德固然重要，但卻只是冰山一角。情商——也就是人們處理自己及他人情緒的方式，在幸福和成功上扮演著至關(guān)重要的角色。
Not sure how emotionally intelligentyou are? Here are 14 signs you have a high EQ.
還不清楚自己的情商到底怎樣？下面14個(gè)信號(hào)就告訴你：你其實(shí)擁有高情商！
1. You're curious about people youdon't know.
你對(duì)不認(rèn)識(shí)的人感到好奇。
Do you love meeting new people, andnaturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've beenintroduced to someone? If so, you have a certain degree of empathy,one of the main components of emotional intelligence.
你是不是喜歡結(jié)交新朋友、介紹后會(huì)忍不住問各種問題？如果這樣，說明你具備一定的共鳴感——這是情商的一個(gè)重要因素。
2. You're a great leader.
你是一個(gè)優(yōu)秀的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)。
Exceptional leaders often have onething in common. In addition to the traditional requirements forsuccess -- talent, a strong work ethic and ambition, for instance-- they possess a high degree of emotional intelligence.The higherthe rank of a person considered to be a star performer, the moreemotional intelligence capabilities showed up as the reason for hisor her effectiveness.
優(yōu)秀領(lǐng)導(dǎo)通常都有一個(gè)共同點(diǎn)。除了稟賦、良好的職業(yè)道德和勃勃雄心等傳統(tǒng)的成功品質(zhì)，他們還有非常高的情商。一個(gè)人越是業(yè)績(jī)斐然，其高效背后的情商也就越突出。
3. You know your strengths andweaknesses.
你清楚自己的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)。
A big part of having self-awareness isbeing honest with yourself about who you are -- knowing where youexcel, and where you struggle, and accepting these things aboutyourself. An emotionally intelligent person learns to identifytheir areas of strength and weakness, and analyze how to work mosteffectively within this framework.
“自知”很大部分就是要誠(chéng)實(shí)面對(duì)自我——清楚知道自己擅長(zhǎng)什么又不在行什么，然后接受這樣的自己。情商高的人懂得看清自己的優(yōu)缺點(diǎn)，然后在此基礎(chǔ)上想辦法做到最好。
4. You know how to pay attention.
你懂得如何集中注意力。
Do you get distracted by every tweet,text and passing thought? If so, it could be keeping you fromfunctioning on your most emotionally intelligent level. But theability to withstand distractions and focus on the task at hand isa great secret to emotional intelligence.
你會(huì)不會(huì)因?yàn)槊織l推特、短信或雜念而分心？倘若如此，那可不利于你好好發(fā)揮情商。情商的一大秘訣就在于抵制誘惑、專注當(dāng)下。
5. When you're upset, you know exactlywhy.
你明白自己為何心煩意亂。
We all experience a number of emotionalfluctuations throughout the day, and often we don't even understandwhat's causing a wave of anger or sadness. But an important aspectof self-awareness is the ability to recognize where your emotionsare coming from and to know why you feel upset.
人們平常都會(huì)遇到一些情緒波動(dòng)，而且往往并不清楚憤怒或難過背后的原因。而自知的重點(diǎn)就是能明白引起情緒低落的根源。
6. You can get along with mostpeople.
你能和大多數(shù)人相處好。
Having fulfilling, effectiverelationships -- that's a sign of emotional intelligence.
高情商的一個(gè)標(biāo)志就是——擁有愉快而有益的人際關(guān)系。
7. You care deeply about being a good,moral person.
你竭力要求自己做善良有道德的人。
One aspect of emotional intelligence isour "moral identity," which has to do with the extent to which wewant to see ourselves as ethical, caring people. If you're someonewho cares about building up this side of yourself (regardless ofhow you've acted in past moral situations), you might have a highEQ.
“道德性”也是情商的一方面，即人們是否愿意成為有道德有愛心的人。如果你很注重培養(yǎng)自己這一素質(zhì)（不管以前道德如何），那么你可能擁有高情商。
8. You take time to slow down and helpothers.
你愿意放慢節(jié)奏去幫他人。
If you make a habit of slowing down topay attention to others, whether by going slightly out your way tosay hello to someone or helping an older woman onto the subway,you're exhibiting emotional intelligence. Many of us, a goodportion of the time, are completely focused on ourselves. And it'soften because we're so busy running around in a stressed-out statetrying to get things done that we simply don't take the time tonotice (much less help) others.
如果你常常用心留意他人，向他人淡淡地打個(gè)招呼或攙老奶奶乘地鐵，那么你是一個(gè)有情商的人。很多人在多數(shù)時(shí)候只一門心思關(guān)注自己，大家都疲于奔命處于一個(gè)高壓狀態(tài)，根本就無暇顧及他人，更別說提供幫助了。
9. You're good at reading people'sfacial expressions.
你很善于察言觀色。
Being able to sense how others arefeeling is an important part of having a good EQ.
善于體察他人的情緒也是高情商的一個(gè)重要因素。
10. After you fall, you get right backup.
你跌倒了能馬上站起來。
How you deal with mistakes and setbackssays a lot about who you are. High EQ individuals know that ifthere's one thing we all must do in life, it's to keep on going.When an emotionally intelligent person experiences a failure orsetback, he or she is able to bounce back quickly.
你解決錯(cuò)誤和挫折的方式很能反應(yīng)你的為人。高情商的人知道：如果生活中有件事不得不做，那就是繼續(xù)前行。當(dāng)這種人遇到失敗或挫折，他們會(huì)盡快重振旗鼓。
11. You're a good judge ofcharacter.
你善于評(píng)判性格。
You've always been able to get a sensefor who someone is pretty much right off the bat -- and yourintuitions are rarely wrong.
你總能敏銳洞察出某人的性格，而且你的直覺很少出錯(cuò)。
12. You trust your gut.
你相信自己的直覺。
An emotionally intelligent person issomeone who feels comfortable following their intuition. If you'reable to trust in yourself and your emotions, there's no reason notto listen to that quiet voice inside (or that feeling in yourstomach) telling you which way to go.
情商高的人樂于聽從直覺。如果你相信自己的感受，那就該聽從內(nèi)心的聲音（或心里感受）告訴你該怎么辦。
13. You've always beenself-motivated.
你常常自我激勵(lì)。
Were you always ambitious andhard-working as a kid, even when you weren't rewarded for it? Ifyou're a motivated self-starter -- and you can focus your attentionand energy towards the pursuit of your goals -- you likely have ahigh EQ.
小時(shí)候，就算得不到獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)，你也會(huì)雄心勃勃地努力嗎？如果你能自我激勵(lì)，并能全心全意追逐目標(biāo)，那么你很可能擁有高情商。
14. You know when to say "no."
你知道何時(shí)該拒絕。
Self-regulation, one of the fivecomponents of emotional intelligence, means being able todiscipline yourself and avoid unhealthy habits. Emotionallyintelligent people are generally well equipped to tolerate stress(a bad-habit trigger for many of us) and to control theirimpulses.
“自我調(diào)節(jié)”是情商的五要素之一，表示有能力自我約束并避開不良習(xí)慣。壓力是很多惡習(xí)的致因，而高情商的人一般都能適應(yīng)壓力并控制好自己的沖動(dòng)。
